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Alameda, CA hometown hero and Korean-American James Hahn is now a two time PGA tour winner. It was an amazing grind it out win this past weekend.
During his final round the CBS commentators kept mentioning that he had missed his previous 8 cuts. For you non golf fans, a professional golf tournament consists of 4 golf rounds. If you can't score well the first 2 rounds you are cut from the tournament and you get no prize money. Furthermore, missing cuts on the PGA tour can mess with confidence issues in which some golfers never recover from. James missed 8 cuts in a row until Sunday where he became victorious.
The part of his win that really got me thinking was his post win interview. The interviewer mentioned that in the past James was at a career crossroad. It was either keep on the path of making it to the PGA tour which comes with uncertainty and a huge financial and time investment or go into advertising. James told the interviewer that when he was at the crossroad his wife asked him the question, "would you rather make $200,000 a year in advertising or keep the course of your uncertain dreams of playing golf"? James told the interviewer that he answered without question to follow his dreams. So he did.
What can we all learn from James' second PGA tour win?
Your mind can be your greatest foe. When James missed 8 consecutive cuts, he started questioning if he belonged on the PGA tour. It's the same for us. When we make the decision to get out of our comfort zone, take a risk, lose a sale or life has us down in the dumps, we can lose confidence, faith and self esteem.
Surround yourself with people that support you and your dreams. Since your mind can be your greatest enemy, we must surround ourselves with supportive people. James mentioned that his wife, family and caddy all would be that supportive voice when he felt he was losing his confidence. My psychology professor at Alameda Community College (I almost went into counseling psychology, but was rejected from the 3 schools I applied to, oh well it worked out well in the end) would also call a support system your "community of concern". These are people that have your back when you are feeling like crap. Life is difficult, and we don't need to do it alone.
Take a chance on your dreams. Easier said than done I get it. However it isn't as difficult as it seems. We can be realistic that some dreams may not happen. If you dream of being a professional musician and your voice sounds like dying cats, it probably won't happen unless you have a schtick like William Hung. For other dreams, they may not be so far fetched as you think they may be.
This quote below says it all for me.
At a young age failure is usually seen as a negative experience rather than a learning experience. We also fear that the dreams won't pay off monetarily and our future tripping takes us to the worse case scenario before we even try things. Why not sign up for that improv class, or take that class on professional public speaking. It doesn't mean you have to quit your job right then in there. If you do go all in and fail at least you learned something about yourself.
Watching James win was amazing and he also fires me up to keep the path of my dreams and to not settle.
Do you want your life to be filled with "oh wells" or "what ifs"? Feel free to share with us your thoughts in the comment section below.